Frequently Asked Questions for Birth Mothers
Is there someone I can talk to?
Yes! LSC adoption counselors are caring and knowledgeable people who work with women and men facing decisions like yours. We understand what you are going through, and we are here to help you make the best decision for you and your unborn child.
Will you make me choose adoption?
No. LSC adoption counselors will give you honest and unbiased information on all your pregnancy options so you can make an informed decision. We cannot make the decision for you; only you know what is best for you and your unborn child.
If I choose adoption, will people think I don’t love my baby?
Not at all.
LSC staff firmly believe anyone making a plan of adoption for their unborn child is courageous and does so with great love. Choosing adoption is a gift you are giving to the child, which provides them with the opportunity to grow up in a loving and nurturing family that you have chosen for them.
How do I know my unborn child will be well taken care of?
LSC specializes in assessing and preparing each family who comes to us wanting to build their family through adoption. Our mission is to ensure that every adoptive family will provide love, financial security, stability, nurturing and understanding.
What is an open adoption?
In an open adoption, the adoptive family and the birth family share information with one another. The type and frequency of contact varies. Depending on the level of openness, the birthparents and adoptive family may meet face to face before the adoption. They may stay in touch for months or years after the child’s birth; possibly throughout the child’s life.
What is a closed adoption?
In a closed adoption the birth parents choose not to make any contact with the adoptive family. The birth parents may ask the placement agency to select an adoptive family for the unborn child. All health and social information provided to the adoptive family for the benefit of the child is “non-identifying."
What is the best kind of adoption for me?
That is up to you. In order to make an informed decision ask questions, talk to our adoption counselors and get as many facts as you need about your options. This will allow you to make an informed decision. You can always change your mind about anything as you go along. As a birth mother, you have the opportunity to make many important decisions for yourself and the child when making your adoption plan.
Will my child get to know me?
Again, this is up to you. Any ongoing contact with the child and adoptive family will depend on the level of openness that you choose. If you choose adoption, the LSC staff will assist you in determining what level of openness is best for you.
Frequently Asked Questions for Birth Fathers
My girlfriend/wife is pregnant and considering adoption. What are my options?
If the birth mother chooses adoption, your choices are:
Support her in her decision and be involved in the adoption process, helping her to make decisions about your unborn child.
Support her in her decision and take a cooperative but not active role. Allow the birth mother to make an adoption plan for her unborn child.
Do not cooperate with her decision to make an adoption plan, and attempt to establish parental rights and parent the child yourself.
If the birth mother chooses to parent the child, you should consult with an attorney about your legal rights and responsibilities.
How are birth fathers involved in the adoption process?
The birth father is able to relinquish his parental rights either before or after the child is born. Birth mothers can only relinquish their parental rights to the child after birth. If you want to be involved in the adoption process, you have the ability to be involved in the process of selecting an adoptive family and developing an adoption plan.
What is my role?
You have the opportunity to provide much needed support to the expectant mother, with whom you have an ongoing connection. Ideally, children should know their birth fathers are people who care about them.
What will I know about the adoptive family?
If you choose to be involved in the adoptions process, you have the option to be involved in choosing an adoptive family. If you choose to participate in the selection process, an LSC adoption counselor will discuss with you your preferences and desires for the identified family. You will also be given an opportunity to meet with potential adoptive parents if desired. If you choose an open adoption, you have the opportunity to maintain contact with the adoptive family after the adoption is finalized.